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Shoes and stuff.

Now, as you may have gathered, my daughter has high functioning autism. I have also been home schooling her and she wanders around bare foot or in flip flops or wellies, hating her feet constricted. Before all this, she had awkawrd feet, wide at the front and narrow at the heel. Now, after a year of loose hippy walking about they have spread.

Many a previous year the hunt for school shoes has been a nightmare, which is why for the past few years before home schooling I'd delegated it. But my bro's on his hols and mu mum ill so...

Oh dear.

Now when you say autism and obssession, or rather, a narrow range of fixed interests, people assume: computers, star wars, star trek, doctor who, dinosaurs, cup winning football teams for the past century, trains...

What people don't think is fairies, barbies and shoes.

Yes shoes. That is high heeled, brightly coloured impossible shoes. Especially red shoes.

Okay, so in the narrow range of fixed interests you can add British detective shoes, as some may have noticed. Particulary Lewis, funnily enough.

She's also rather fond of musicals and can recite lyrics and tell you plots and year of release and the Broadway and West End versions and...

Lewis and shoes and musicals (oh she's taking up rowing! Now who is her hero, I wonder? H'm...)

Back to shoes. Black school shoes and trainers do not fit on the radar. They do not shine. They are not high. They do not vamp or camp.

Bored asperger girl = hyperactvitiy and intractability.

Awkward feet equal every shoe in the shop to try to get a fit.

And mama's in a wheelchair getting totally exhausted and embarrassed and running out of patience.

Of we went to Oxford today with mama so worried and anxious and I can only praise my daughter to the skies. Yes she was hard work, but not that much.

She was good in Clarks. And big kudos to the young girl who served us. Never, ever has anyone understood what she needed without even being told she was autistic. Using her name before each sentence so she knew she was being addressed. Short sentences, Precise instructions. Explanations on what she was doing.

My daughter doens't do laces. Well, she can, but maybe five minutes a foot. No good for PE. No velco in her size in Clarks. Of to Start Rite and again good as gold.

Phew! And skirts and calculators and lunch boxes on top of all already got. That's the school shop done.

And bleeping expensive it was too. Up to £400 on the lot!!!

So anyway, she was rewarded with a new Barbie DVD.

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dare_dreamer
Aug. 30th, 2011 10:27 am (UTC)
And i thought I had a hard time to find good shoes that i like.
I once brought, or tried to but, a pair of red wellies. But I couldn't aford them when i was thirteen. I've now been inspired to buy them. And I'd even wear them when it hasn't been raining.
I'm kinda glade i got hand-me-downs now since i don't think i would be able to spend that much on school clothing. Now on DVD's I would glade spend that much.
asparagusmama
Aug. 30th, 2011 11:23 am (UTC)
Ooh red wellies sound gorgeous. there were some Hello Kitty onesin Sainsburys I was wanting for me - well, one of us can still fit into kids shoes! But I can't afford anything for me.

Well, I say that, I'm adding to my huge overdraft and going to Brighton for the weekend before the whole school thing starts next Wednesday. I can't believe how quickly 10 months of home schooling has gone.

When I was a kid, being the oldest, I didn't have hand me downs. No,my mum would buy all these old lady dresses and use the material to make my dresses. and hand knit jumpers for school, what with the home made bread and cakes and clothes, everything thought I was a right weirdo.

Someone told me today I cold have got a grant coz i'm on disibility benefits. too late now!

I've not been this overdrawn since I was a student 13 years ago!!! Still, the next three months we can live on lentils and stuff.
dare_dreamer
Aug. 30th, 2011 08:12 pm (UTC)
Yea they do sound great. Now all I have to do is find a place that sell my size. It may be fun to wear red wellies into colege. Oh my sister (who is older then me) would love to have Hello Kitty ones. I may buy her a pair to annoy her. Size 1 would do. So she can't wear them.

My Dad did that once. We were going to an assemberly and we couldn't aford to buy any new dresses so my Dad made us some out of curtains. They were pretty cool.

That sucks. Surly you'll be getting some help with payments and sch what (i sound posh).
asparagusmama
Aug. 31st, 2011 12:29 am (UTC)
red wellies to me say strong adventurous type of girl, one who will take no nonsense :) Go for it!

If the Hello Kitty ones are still there at the end of September, when it is my birthday amd I get some birthday money, I may buy them.

Your Dad sounds clever (and cool too to do that for his daughters - or does that sound sexist?)

Yep. Don't know if I can claim retrospectively or not. Once I have time I'll get in touch with the benefits advice charity in Barton.

Hope you like my new user pic - my friends Poppy and Amy who sit on my bed. you are never to old for a soft toy friend!
dare_dreamer
Aug. 31st, 2011 07:43 pm (UTC)
You know You've talked me into it. And I think that you should go ahead and treat yourself to those hello kitty ones.
My Daddy is clever. He's one of the most wonderful people I know.
You should talk to them I've heard today that i will be getting help with payments.
Oh and I love the new pic. I have a teddy bear a panda teddy called POLO and i have owned it since i was seven.
asparagusmama
Sep. 6th, 2011 10:48 am (UTC)
Sorry I've taken so long to get back to you. Took BK to Brighton for her birthday and I'm now so overdrawn, I've not been in this much debt since I was a student. I think I've gone a little crazy. So, no, I won't be treating myself to new wellies :( Unless I get birthday money from my grandparents *crosses fingers and hopes*

I do hope you got the red wellies though.

Your Daddy is not only clever, he's got a daughter who is very proud :) My Mum is also clever, she's made a gluten free, dairy free Barbie birthday cake for BK!

Glad you like the pic, I uploaded it for you :)

I've got a teddy I've had since I was a baby, he's very old, and called Tatty, becasue he is, rather, but I love him.

When do you start college? BK starts school tomorrow?

Have you seen the new Jesse J video. Happy therapy for anyone bullied or laughed at school I think? Bk says watch it, from one raggy doll to another, she's been watching it every day on You Tube.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KsxSxF3JKeU&feature=related
dare_dreamer
Sep. 6th, 2011 11:06 pm (UTC)
Hope you had a nice time in Brighton.

And I hope you get thoes wellies. I've been looking around and on the internet and can't find another air like the ones i originally wanted. The shop that sold them have run out of my size and don't know when or if they'd be getting more this time of the year.

I am very proud to have a daddy like I have. I somtimes think that I am taking advantace of him but then he tells me that he loves us and would do anything.

Maybe I'll upload one of POLO so you can see what she looks like. She has a tiny hole in her head that we've been thinking about fixing but I'm so scared she won't look like her if i did.

Oh good like with that. I start on Thursday not sure what my time table will be like until then so I'm not sure if I'll be able to visit the sight as much. I'm hoping I'll be able to get on once a day as I used to. I only managed a once a week update for a while. I've been deleting some before publishing because i don't really think anyone would be interested.

I've been meaning to see the new vid. I'll have a look now thanks.

Good luke for tomorrow (or today depends when you read) with school. I'm sure it'll all be fine.
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